For many people who like to engage in games of domination and submission, they tend to identify themselves as either one or the other. I suppose for many dominant types, the idea of submitting to another’s will goes against their very nature and is an uncomfortable prospect. On the other hand, for many submissives, they are simply not equipped to take the lead and inflict their force of will upon another, however willing the other participant.
For me, I have to say, there are merits in both, and the mode of dress will play an integral part in which role is the more appealing. For instance, wearing a pair of thigh high patent leather boots with accompanying elbow length gloves, and tightfitting basque, suspenders and stockings is far more likely to bring out the dominance in me, than say a delicate set of pink lace lingerie, in which case I’m far more likely to be leaning toward my submissive side.
Like most people, I tend to lean more to one side than the other, but I can certainly appreciate life on either side of the fence. I know this isn’t unique in any way, as there are many people who are able to experience both sides of the equation, but in my case the clothes really do make the difference.
For me, a pair of high heeled boots fits far more comfortably with a dominant persona than a pair of ultra feminine pink stilletto shoes. There are exceptions of course. Items of clothing that can and do fit either role. The first that springs to mind is a shiny skin tight catsuit. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but such an item can be ultra feminine and empowering at the same time, especially with those high heeled boots and mask. Oh I do like a skin tight catsuit!
I think it can be fun to experiment with different types of roleplay, but if you’re ultra submissive then it’s unlikely you’ll ever get the hang of being the dominant one in a scene. At the end of the day it doesn’t really matter, as long as you’re happy with your part.
Some people will inevitably be thinking of dominance and submission as being at the higher end of the spectrum, involving full bondage and physical pain, but you don’t have to include such things in order to roleplay one person being dominant over the other. There are plenty of other scenarios that can involve quite mild forms of dominance that do not entail any form of bondage. There’s many I can think of, most of which come with their own set of unique dressing up outfits; teacher & student, master & maid, boss & secretary etc. etc.
I guess really I’m just into dressing up generally, so any excuse for a new outfit and I’m there! What’s your favourite roleplay? Have you a particular outfit that puts you in a dominant or submissive frame of mind? Are you one or the other, or both?
Well, until next time, I’m off to pull on that black skin tight catsuit and see where it takes me, because you never quite know which way it may go. 😉